the oversimplicity of this, for bad things do happen to good people. When
bad things have happened to me, I try to learn from the experience and
not remain responding to the situation through anger, resentment, and
revenge. With plenty of practice, this has gotten a little easier.
I use the counseling technique, "when you point the finger at someone
else, you are really pointing 3 fingers back at yourself." I
made a deal with myself that when
an irritating individual hits my buttons, I would not react to them until
I can find 3 reasons that are making me respond so strongly. I am amazed how often I use this technique.
The 1st reason is always very easy to figure out and can always be discounted because it's too simplistic. The 2nd
is a little more difficult to find, but well worth the exploration. But, it's the 3rd reason that has always provided
me with a great deal of introspective wisdom. Often, I even forget why
I was upset in the first place and I have often found that my initial
upsetness has been replaced with thankfulness to the irritating individuals.
Unfortunately, I seem to get plenty of practice with this technique. Thankfully, the more I use it, the easier the process gets.
Believe me, this hasn't happened overnight. It has taken me many years
and interacting with many irritatating individuals to almost master this technique.
I can now look back and say that it has been worth it, for now, when bad situations
happen, I am better able to handle the situation and maintain my positive
I am frequently tested and I seem to fail less and less. My lesson has also been to find some new aquaintances.